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Home • [IChing] Intimacy with the wrong person (Part 4)
Never allow anyone to cross your boundaries of integrity #51 > #27 5 6
If you stray from where you belong, you’re going to get hurt. Expect intense obtrusion’s from the outside. You will come to learn that the struggle along was with your own fear. There is almost an adrenaline rush from the presence of danger. The secret of “”Seriousness”” is to be cool. No matter what comes down, cultivate a Buddha-calm that won’t quit.
As you get serious about deepening your defenses, you will get closer to peace of mind. It’s all part of your journey now-like a traveller in a tale of old, beset by dark foes, but guided by soul and light. Believe in yourself. You are in for some hard times now. The ghosts of your mistaken actions now come to haunt your life. Will you even recognize that you have brought trouble upon yourself? How many lessons in life will you need before you face the fact that you can control your own fate? The world isn’t out to get you, and you must begin to rehabilitate your outlook and values immediately. One who can remain centered in the midst of confusion and chaos will avoid being pummelled and suffer no loss. If you have the capacity and clarity to recognize impending disaster, you can take the necessary steps to avert it.
Nurture your own body, mind, and spirit. Be open and available to help others become stronger and more self-sufficient. Maintain balance and perspective. Do not advance one thing at the expense of another. Pay attention to what enters and exits your mouth.
How I interpreted/related: Sort of a “tut tut” from the IChing about my attraction to danger & anything ‘outside of the norm’ :) It’s agreeing in a way to my statement; to me it’s saying that if you know yourself, know your values, and stay true to your own values, and believe in yourself, that will result in peace of mind which enables you to remain calm and centred in any circumstance. That I went against my own principles in the confusion because I didn’t know myself/believe in myself, etc., and as a result experienced fear and hard times. To take care & take personal responsibility rather than pointing the finger at ‘another’ for crossing my boundaries – when I didn’t set any to begin with.
The more excessive & scary he got, the more I thought I needed to save his soul and face my fears. #37 >#57 1 2
One’s composure will see one through catastrophic conditions with a harmonious and effective spirit. Disaster and collapse can ensue, but the wise will discover strengths and weaknesses within him, and arrange his affairs accordingly. Sometimes a shock to the system will awaken you to the reality of your situation. Shock awakens feelings of fear and wonder; if you can keep your composure, heightened perceptions illuminate the state you are in with such clairty, that facing your problems brings relief and with relief comes laughter. The impact of the storm spreads far and wide. It’s a dangerous situation. Stay calm, but be prepared for damages.
How I interpreted/related: Yep you fucked up because you couldn’t keep your composure when shit started to go down. Nevertheless, the shock did awaken you to facing problems within, and that even though it’s a horrible outcome, to stay calm, do the work, and one day you may laugh about it.
Was it Instant Karma? #63 > #48 1 2
Its not your fault that so many obstacles have arisen, but it’s your duty to remove them. Just do it. Keep the water pure. Preserve the integrity of your well. If you allow yourself to get carried away, you will lose your better judgement. Avoid extremes.
How I interpreted/related: It’s not instant karma, but everything it brought up still needs to be dealt with. Purify yourself, cleanse your internal being, and get back to your values. Don’t lose your focus.
How do you be friends with someone but not allow their attachment to you to become intrusive, how do you tell someone “Just Friends” when you can feel their keenness for more? #49 > #58 2 3
Gentle, sincere and honest talk = produces harmony; excessive, repressive talk = misfortune. Good will, good humour and wisdom. Stay true to what you know to be right. Stand up for yourself. Be uplifting.
How I interpreted/related: Someone else started taking an interest in me at this time and I totally didn’t want to deal with anyone but I didn’t want to hurt their feelings because they were very sensitive & I was already feeling crushed by human unkindness and didn’t want to be unkind to someone else, especially someone being overly-nice to me. They are saying to just be honest and sincere and stay light about it. Stay true to your values and don’t ‘cave’ just to try and keep another person’s ego from being hurt.
I’ve managed to turn off my feelings out of self-loathing?
#57 > #18 5
As your plan unfolds, monitor your progress. Evaluate results. Perseverance brings good fortune, remorse vanishes. Requires time to resolve itself. Deterioration is at play and the necessary change will result in better conditions. Things have been unstable for a while, but those days are drawing to an end. The tide of fortune favours you now because you have prepared well for the changes which must come. Get yourself under control and think things over. What is going to happen? Where does the path you are travelling really lead? Satisfy yourself that you have done the best you could and keep your determination on a slow burn. To delve into the real depths of fate and fortune, sit down after you have implemented some changes and refinements and think everything through again. There will be magic in your mind.
How I interpreted/related: This was a question I asked about a video I did after realizing that I actually had ‘no feelings’. I was empty and disgusted with myself, started to see my ‘excessiveness’ and ‘upbeatness’ through other people’s eyes and was embarrassed/humiliated about it. I used to prize myself on uplifting others and all of a sudden I saw it ‘their way’ as being ‘disturbing’ & ‘unstable’ and lost my identity, will and purpose. It’s saying to persevere because at least I’m working on myself, I’m making progress, and that it will take time to adjust and stabilize from all that has transpired.
What is my blockage or barriers in my heart preventing me from achieving / wanting closeness with others #6
When you find peace with yourself, you will find peace all around you. Once you make peace with yourself, you can make peace with anyone. When you are open, all obstacles disappear. Let go of defence. We are drawn to explore the Shadow in another. Try opening to a situation that you would rather not face. You can sometimes only understand what is important to you, when you are forced to defend it. You may feel wronged by another. When you just realize that they made their choice based on their needs and there is nothing to be done except to seek closure. Caulk it up to a learning experience.
By forcing your view instead of accepting what comes, you’ve brought an opposition. Accept/respect the advice of someone wiser than you are. Opposition. Fears. Doubts. Impatience. Conflict. Don’t start anything that you see will be a problem to you. Likewise, err on the side of caution-be conservative. use your talents to foresee trouble and avoid it. Try to be flexible and fluid in the face of changes as rock-steadiness will work against you. Also, search your circle of people for a wise adviser when difficulties intrude. Using your gifts of willpower and discrimination humbly to help yourself will help your passage through days of conflict.
How I interpreted/related: As I came to realize my solitude and not wanting to be around or talk with anyone, hiding from the world – not trusting myself or anyone else, I wondered if the IChing had any insights about this.
It’s again restating the need to find peace within. That we are drawn to explore ourselves through the interaction with others, and sometimes you learn things about yourself that could only come about when you cross your own boundaries/values – sometimes these encounters actually help you become aware of ‘what’ your values are. Now you know what’s important to you, you know more about yourself. Noone is to blame – each were listening to their own inner truth / doing what they felt was right, and now it’s time to just learn from it and move on. It’s also suggesting that ‘my way’ is not the ‘only way’. That it’s better to see what situations may entail before getting caught up in them & be more cautious in future.
So, so wrong what he did #7 > #44 3 4 5 6
Misfortune follows due to your over-estimation of your virtues and overlooking your weaknesses. Growth comes after a deteriorating situation is given a new sense of direction. Some things can only be learned from mistakes.
The true leadership of your project has been grabbed or lost by people who rely more on their egos than the finding of proper direction. You haven’t exercised your leadership or brought out the leadership in others properly and now, as a result, the fate of the project hangs in the balance. Restore order by burying old negative feelings and look through the ghosts of unfulfilled wishes. Get yourself together here and now and the future will take care of itself.
In order to be victorious you must know when to punch and when to duck. Now is the time for intelligent spiritual withdraw (duck)-not in cowardice, but in confidence that your time will come. Don’t be lured by false bravery-drop back and look at the situation. It probably calls for you to cultivate your faith in yourself and friends. Hidden power can then be transformed through good timing.
There is a test coming-not only a physical struggle but an emotional and spiritual one. It is at this time when everyone’s commitment to the goal upon which all agreed will face its earnest trial. If you are a leader, don’t let the group feeling disintegrate into isolated individuality, and if you experience a temporary advantage, don’t let anyone use it to bully or intimidate others. That course will backfire and all will be lost.
Make “good” the standard to which all must adhere. Evoke good sportsmanship. If you have come into power, victory, or advantage, share it with deserving friends and associates. This is the time to be the person you desire to be. Let good values and actions flow like healing water to wash away negative people and negative results. Good outshines the last remnants of corruption and important directions are shared.
Hexagram Seven/Line Three:
A wagonload of corpses this way comes.
Hexagram Seven/Line Four:
It is never a mistake to retreat to a stronger position.
Hexagram Seven/Line Five:
The seasoned veteran is elevated to command, and none too soon. For the game is in the field, and it would be wise to catch it.
Hexagram Seven/Line Six:
The victor divides the spoils among the loyal, leaving the jackals with neither reward nor obligation
How I interpreted/related: Guess I was having another finger-pointing day about the betrayal. It’s just saying that mistakes happen and you just have to learn from it. It’s saying you weren’t exactly a good leader because you weren’t ‘being’ the example either, and that these feelings being stirred up come from having expectations of other people to behave a certain way and not being diligent when things got bad. The “over-estimation of your virtues” statement is saying that “I wasn’t exactly an angel in this situation”. Get back to who you are and allow the good to outshine the remnants of corruption and negative results.
Is justice a human right? #51 > #19 2 4
Accept your losses and start again. Get help or be patient. Rather than focus on others, do what is right for you. Now you may feel actively insecure about any area of your life, based on your perception of a recent happening. Possibly a confused encounter or a misunderstanding will leave you with a sinking feeling and flashes of panic. Will I lose my friend, lover, security, etc.? All this is part of the natural cycle which will lead your fate back to you. Whatever you want so badly, due to your inflamed insecurities, will come to you.
Go on living your life; calm down; nothing has been gained or lost. You are confused. Hard times have come and gone leaving little clue as to their deeper meaning and implications. You seem hung-up in a personal time warp where nothing is happening-the last piece of the puzzle has not been found. Your only alternative is to free yourself in order to let things clarify themselves in good time-a time when you will be more able to comprehend and deal effectively with all that happened.
How I interpreted/related: Calm down – stop panicking. Stop worrying about getting justice and focus on doing what’s right for you. You are confused and seeking a missing piece of the puzzle to get clarity, but the only way forward – the only way to get that clarity – is to free yourself of all entanglements with this and let things clarify in time when you’re no longer going through the crisis.
How will I get it back? (my heart) #43
Elimination of unworthiness. Tackling negative forces and influences. How to deal with unavoidable confrontation. Compromising our virtue. Channelling our energies into virtue. Correcting one’s faults. Surviving difficult challenges. Deeply trusting yourself and the power of intuitive guidance. Integrity and focus. Resist egotistical influences in order to make a breakthrough. By resisting emotional overreactions, it is possible to defuse the situation before it causes problems.
How I interpreted/related: You went against your own virtue because of your own sense of unworthiness and now you need to correct the root problem and survive through this. When you have done this, and have learnt to trust yourself and your intuition again by staying true to your own integrity, and focusing back on what’s ‘right’ for you, you will make a breakthrough.
How do I release the anger/pain/shame #24
Return. Progress is often marked by a slow return to sincerity. Reconnect to core part of myself. Something has turned with the season. It’s not that you have been stagnating, but you have been in an extended period or withdraw and consolidation. Perhaps when you began your last phase, you needed to pull back from a world which presented too many conflicts. Since that time you have gone a solitary path and learned life-changing lessons about yourself and the world from which you exiled yourself. Lately you have been extraordinarily aware of the cycles of karma as you perceive them. You see that people can only free themselves as they successfully reconcile unfinished business on the material plane. Often this unfinished business comes from past lives-please investigate your own psychic history. Right now you could learn a great deal about your general direction in this life, and many times the cycles in an individual life are complex and turn strange patterns as karma is worked out. You are acutely aware of this now from the simplest levels to the most abstract. The beauty of this understanding is that it is natural. You have observed the changing with the seasons, seen the gold and red leaves fall and new buds break with the spring. You have seen the dead laid to rest and the hope in new children. Most importantly, you have been open to the lessons of your own life and its returnings. You are a gentle person and now this will help you as you must completely control your desires and the illusions they create. Your withdraw has given way to change-don’t try to force analysis. Your truest talent, your ability to interpret events, will flower at the best possible moment. That is not now, however. Now enjoy the smell of spring on a winter night somewhere. Judgment: The Work is recycled, perfected and refined over and over again. The Superior Man pauses before he begins anew.
The concept behind it is the acknowledgement of one’s Source, a review of the past cycle and a meditation upon the new cycle just beginning.
How I interpreted/related: Re-attune yourself to the work – get back on course. You are making progress, have learnt lessons and exiled yourself from everyone whilst you return to who you really are. When you stray off the path, things will engage to bring you back to your path. Keep up the work, and keep bringing yourself back to who you are within.
How can I prevent him from continuing to damage my reputation?
#58 > #60 4
Always our higher and lower natures are speaking to us. How do you want to spend your precious life? It seems that much of the material world is a temple built to honour the desires of the ordinary mind, but is there that much happiness in it all? Why is there so much misery in every socioeconomic level? Money, sex, drugs, ambition, power-the lower self makes these gods. Examine the promptings of your higher self. What alternatives are there to offer you a key to the meaning behind it all. Try another way. Line Four: This experimentation with diverse pleasures, this fruitless chase after the ultimate thrill, will damage you. Joy is tranquil, not mad rushing, and will arise from peace.
How I interpreted/related: Focus on higher-perspectives rather than the lowly ones.
I can’t get myself pure again. I can’t see him as innocent. I’m trying to do what I feel is right. I can’t believe such a random decision has turned my world upside down. The shame I feel is unbearable and I miss seeing the good in people. I don’t know how to fix myself. I hate that I went from confident to victim-mentality. I hate that I feel like he did this deliberately, that someone has that kind of hatred within them where they could do that to anyone. I hate that I don’t see hope for his soul. I hate that its been over a year and I still can’t make it ok. #26 > #9 5
The time of difficulty is passing. Be confident that your modesty and gentle generosity can put past difficulties to rest. Situations may even be better now than before your troubles occurred. However, you must be alert and conscientious about keeping on the right path; temptations may appear. Choose high quality people to help you through.
How I interpreted/related: You’re nearly there. Stay true to the right path. “Yield not unto temptation.” Stick with people you can trust.
Can /Should I have hope for his soul?
#48 > #59 3 6
There are wells of pure, clear water which no man has been lucky enough to find. Many missed connections flood the experiences of this material plane. Many connections can be made, to the surprise and good fortune of the openhearted observer. There is no explanation for light and dark. There is only wind in tall trees and the passing lives of men. What does your intuition say? On your own way you may have accomplished some important things, but your real successes are among the people. You help your fellow human beings. Don’t ponder over this mystery, just accept the fact that you hold a special place. You have proven your dedication at every turn and the little things you have done have made deep impressions on the people for whom you have done them. You can be a wizard now as life flows through you. Your magic is you.
How I interpreted/related: It’s ok to hold space for the good in people.
This is going to get worse no matter what I do. This will always be the thing that tarnished my soul, is there no path I can take to correct the mistake? #11
Go with the flow, everything works out for the best. Developing proper mindset of accepting what you cannot change. She was transparent. Forget focusing on the small details or negativity because the bigger picture is more important. Pay attention to inner truths that are in harmony with nature. Good things are there for you, if you are willing to take on a challenge. You probably have been gong through some mind-muddling changes where tried-and-true values you once depended on have disintegrated leaving petty squabbling and time-wasting hassles.
Actually the problem is that you haven’t asserted yourself and put your cards clearly on the table. Because of your need to be mellow, you have left too much up to fate-this is a mistake-this is time to tell others what you really are all about. Others may have come to inaccurate conclusions about your personality and it is time to set the record straight. There will be a slight awkwardness in your initial attempt at unravelling a problem, but you will have a deep impact on another person who will come to see your point-this is when peace will start. The effects of this tranquil period could be very far-reaching and significant to your life. By exerting your will you have fused energies which would have been wasted otherwise.
The harmonious flow you have begun is timely for all involved. Just like good times can only be understood in relation to hard times, peace is best savoured in relation to the periods of conflict (war) which preceded. Teach yourself to enjoy this time and make the most of every golden moment. Reach out with faith and confidence to do what you might have thought was impossible. Be a healer.
Legge: Harmony shows the inferior departed and the great arrived. There will be good fortune with progress and success.
Wilhelm/Baynes:Peace. The small departs, the great approaches. Good fortune. Success.
The Superior Man allows his inner virtue to rule the psyche.
Without changing lines, Harmony suggests a fruitful union of opposites and consequent state of balance in the matter at hand.
How I interpreted/related: Don’t worry, work towards peace & harmony. The bigger picture is more important than thinking of worst-case scenarios. Set the record straight with those who have drawn inaccurate conclusions about you. (No I did not do that, I kept silent.)
What is “his” inner truth about it? #40 > #54 1
The bad time which you feel passing was nourished by the darkness in your own heart. Perhaps another did you wrong; very probably in the opinion of that person you were the offender. It doesn’t matter now, and you must let past bitterness go. Where you feel ungenerous, you are wrong in this case. The answer lies in going beyond the past to forgive grievances. Now you will rise above problems as they occur. Open your heart and answer feelings of danger with love and sincerity. Be relaxed and confident and you can be the leader fate has chosen you to be-because of your humility. Make peace with someone with whom you recently have had strained relations. They might be a little chilly at first, but conditions will quickly ameliorate. Be uncharacteristically good-natured and watch the world give you maximum respect. This is the line of rebuilding. The tribulations have subsided and you are enjoying some comparative peace. Don’t trouble your mind with vague worries and anxieties. Worrying would be a waste of time since you need exercise, fresh air, good nutrition, and sleep. As you let the time nourish and heal you, you will let your natural good fortune increase.
How I interpreted/related: You think she did you wrong, she thinks you did her wrong. When you feel ungenerous (mean), you are wrong in this case. Be sincere and humble. Make peace with strained relations. Be good-natured and you will regain your respect.
What is “my” inner truth about it? #29 > #51 1 2 4 5
Fears and ghostly shadows of the past may haunt you, or new temptations will materialize to test your weakest moments. You must know yourself now and follow the source of inspiration on your chosen path. A time of testing has come and will bring you complicated problems and possibilities for growth. You are a teacher. Not simply a person who disseminates information, but an example of the philosophy by which you live. You stand to be revealed at this time for your true character. People will be closely scrutinizing your words and deeds, and will hold you accountable for yourself-however, where you are true and wise, you will have a lasting impact on those who seek your counsel. The material plane is a hard ride. Life, death, suffering-it seems so all-encompassing that we forget about it. We live with the pain, as if what we do doesn’t matter. You are lost-no one likes to hear that-but it can happen to anyone. Don’t be afraid to turn your back on doomed, self-created illusions. Get to know yourself-surprise yourself with a creative reaction to life. Therapy, philosophy, religion, education, work, people-find something in life and devote yourself to it. This line forecasts a true testing of your inner resources. The heaviness of life looms all around you, and, since you are a person who likes to work actively to straighten things out, you are tempted in many different directions. However, if you are hearing the message of your inner voice, you know that you must not directly act. You must wait for exactly the right moment to achieve progress. Like a drowning man beating the water to stay alive, but instead tiring and weakening himself, you must not move from your stillness too soon and waste your energy. Concentrate on each moment to see when your chance for meaningful action will come. And it will come. An unexpected friend will appear. This appearance will be odd since this person will not be the person to whom you are usually drawn. You are normally revered and encouraged for your brilliance, but now you will be a king in exile, wrapped in shredded robes from the storms of fate. You will be shown real humanity in its simplest form to reflect your own simplicity. Don’t live by old expectations. Get down to it. Take a breath in a long, dark night. Be thankful. Here your leadership characteristics will draw you deeper into danger if you become headstrong. Seriously, don’t you have enough to worry about right now? You’ve got to realize that the period of testing you are in demands that you don’t bolt like a wild horse in a lightning storm. Ambition is illusion. If you prepare yourself with pride and dedication, you will be ready when appropriate opportunities come. However, if you let yourself be lured by self-projected desires, watch out!
How I interpreted/related: A ‘dark night of the soul’ challenge that brings out all my undealt-with fears, vulnerabilities and weaknesses to overcome and learn from. Let go of the past-programming and install some upgrades. Death of the ego.
I just don’t want this to be a continuous issue in my life, disrupting my life & my dignity #64 > #35 2
Use creative visualization now to pave the way for future success. If you act overtly, you will lose. If you become passive and accepting, you will find yourself without an important opportunity which awaits you. However, if you project a positive image of the future within yourself, strengthening your character and spirit, then you will be accomplishing a great deal. Worry about whether you should go forward or not, and all the neurotic indulgences which attend that use of your mind, will drain your energies and make it difficult to see the right path when it emerges. Timing is everything now and you go with the flow.
How I interpreted/related: Go with the flow and project a positive future.
How will I know when I’m aligned with absolute inner truth/ my soul’s wishes #17 > #3 5 6
Your values are strong and attainable right now. That is fortunate since you are making some changes. There may even be second thoughts or melancholy about new directions and old. You are right to want the best from your life and in order to get it you hold fast to the principles by which you steer. Storms may come, but they will quickly go. Blessings are coming to you because you successfully live your beliefs. Try to bring out the best in everybody and you will be the respected centre of good events. Believe in the good inside each heart and be tireless in your confidence in the people closest to you. Listening to good friends will be to your advantage. You want to rest, lay back and enjoy some time by yourself. A long period of hard work seems to be behind, but the world needs you and one person in particular can benefit from your friendship and philosophy. Duty calls and at first you are reluctant, but then you take it upon yourself to exercise your will.
How I interpreted/related: By living your values and believing in the good inside each heart.
Can’t just wave a magic wand and fix this? Step into another dimension?
Be well-constructed. Have flexibility and unselfish appreciation of human nature. Use your intuition. Understanding surfaces from within our own self. Cannot ever be supported by another. Preserve integrity, kindness, and purity. Avoid extremes. Uncontaminated wisdom & spiritual nourishment.
How I interpreted/related: Yeah-no. Just get your own self sorted and don’t require anyone else to be anything other than who they are.
What deficiencies do I still need to transform? #50 > #48 4 5 6
I should show a poker face, But excuse me while I unravel on the carpet. Pride & Ego. Don’t follow the crowd. Let people know the solution. Do your own thing. Things are not going well. You have pressures on you which you have not handled properly. Possibly you feel someone else is to blame, but you must realize the weakness is in yourself and only you can change things. Self-confidence is the key. Start with yourself to work out larger situations. The time of difficulty is passing. Be confident that your modesty and gentle generosity can put past difficulties to rest. Situations may be even better now than before your troubles occurred. However, you must be alert and conscientious about keeping the right path; temptation may appear. Choose high quality people to help you through. Things are very favorable to you at this time. You maintain a positive frame of mind which you pass on to the people around you. They listen to you because you are sincere and gentle, even when you speak of serious matters. Progress is possible, as you let out stored energies which find a way to work.
How I interpreted/related: Be the change you want to see in the world.
Did I almost pierce / get through to his soul? #52 > #64 2 3 4
This is a good time to have blind faith in your luck. Don’t be surprised if things get out of control at times and have you looking for cover. Your psychic revelations about the future won’t get through to some people around you. They will take paths you know are not good for them, but you won’t be able to do anything about it. Just keep in mind that everything is working itself out. Don’t drown in the blues. Maker yourself flow with events and don’t set yourself up for regrets. Something is bubbling up within you. Your desire for stillness is being disrupted from inside and the harder you work to control yourself the more negative the results will be. Possibly you are experiencing sexual frustration or an over-abundance of fantasies. These have nothing to do with your actual, everyday existence and are actually sidetracking you from more important matters at hand. Realize that the fog you are in is passing. Don’t get lost in the darker side of your self or make the mistake of feeling that you can force yourself. If you are being limited or irritated by your feelings, let them pass into unimportance. You can’t win by fighting. The stillness and calm you have been needing is very close. You are able to hold back negative and aggressive feelings, but you aren’t happy. Questions, worries, and doubts fall on your heart like rain, and even though you are easy to get along with, others are not, and their unrefined actions upset you. You are not comforted by anything except the inner knowledge that you are doing the only possible thing you can by dedicatedly relaxing your body and mind. That is building for your future.
How I interpreted/related: No, he is on his own path and even if it’s not good for him – you can’t do anything about it. Forget about it – you can’t fix him and that’s your own ego playing out a fantasy that you think anything you did helped him at all and your own ego trying to justify the situation because you are unhappy with how it played out.
What wisdom do I need to decontaminate #20 > #9 1 2 3
It is clear that you may be experiencing confusion. This is happening because you aren’t looking between the lines or at the wider picture. Don’t kid yourself. Fantasy won’t help you now. In your heart you probably feel what your mind must learn-that life is larger than the cares in which you absorb yourself. Don’t waste your energy on pointless talk; open your mind to all of life. You are only as wise as you make yourself. If you are satisfied with limitation and routine, then you have no need to open your mind. If you desire more freedom, look at the motivations behind the actions of people and the underlying principles of nature. Women-be tireless in your observation of situations. Keep all your energy riveted to a single situation. This is the best time possible to think about your own life. Gone are the times when you evaluate everyone else and ponder their motives. It is on you to determine the end results your actions produce. All you have ever done has truth about your life, which at this time is accessible to you. You also benefit from inner vision about your future and important decisions are clear as they come up from within. Judge yourself without prejudice. Think about it.
How I interpreted/related: Caught up in just one experience instead of the abundance and infinite of all of life. Stop pondering other people’s motives – instead learn to observe where your own choices lead you.
What is the real problem? #38 > #34 3 6
Static and hassles go out of control all around you. An uprising of bad karma invades your life from unexpected sources. Possibly something sincere you have done has been misinterpreted, and you have achieved the opposite result you would have desired. Your opposite is refusing to cooperate with you. This shows you how fragile your relationship is since it can be shaken so severely by suspicion and doubt. This is not really your problem, however, and you must let the situation pass. The pressure on your opposite will decrease, and he will begin to treat you well again. In fact, don’t be surprised if the very person who is now so difficult goes out of his for you at a later date. That will be the good fortune of keeping to your path. You will have to see through many veils now. There is a veil over your own mind which causes you to overreact defensively to many situations. In this case, you miscalculated the character of someone you will later find is a close companion to you. Oddly enough, that you will make this mistake is a positive sign that you are moving in your Tao. Now is a very good time to adhere to your source of inspiration. Prayers and psychic insight will help decipher the confusing events of the days ahead. You achieve union with yourself now, and that influences all your other relationships.
How I interpreted/related: Achieving the opposite result intended. Insecure friendship. Being misunderstood. Let it go and keep to your path. Stop overreacting and get in touch with your own truth, and when you find inner peace, that will permeate out to all your relationships.
He’s scared of me? I’ve been terrified of him for a year! How do I fix myself, my whole worldview has changed, I can’t trust myself – my beliefs – my intuition and trying to stabilise whilst still having to interact with him is so hard. I don’t know what happened. I feel so ashamed and humiliated and also responsible for my part in it. I want to have peace and harmony.
#63 > #37 6
A challenge is presented to you. You are at odds with yourself, and you realize that something must be done. Something is haunting you, but you must turn your back on the spell which entraps you. Keep your momentum and you will be safe. Your peace is in motion, not necessarily to some overwhelming goal, merely the intuitive motion which has enabled you to tread dangerous ground, like the ground now upon which you stand.
How I interpreted/related: This too shall pass. Work peacefully through this level of the game. Upgrade.
How do I stop feeling so disgusted in myself
#3 > #17 4
Going forward is very favourable right now. All your energy should go toward understanding yourself. You must see clearly what you really want. If what is inside you, in your heart, is linked up with your will, things will be easier for you. Also, you need help, and you shouldn’t be afraid to reach out for people who can really see you for what you are. Be discriminating in your choice of anyone to share your inner thoughts. This line is a good omen for marriage and is especially favourable for women who wait selectively for the right man.
How I interpreted/related: Get help from trusted allies. Try and understand yourself and what you want.
Do I have to face him.. or? #33 > #53 4
You must follow your inner voice now. The retreat you are in is natural and easy since you are relatively independent, but those who have formed neurotic attachments to you may become difficult. They attempt to make you feel guilty. Now you are the master of the fork in the road. Your way will be different from anyone else’s, and invariably difficulties will be left for those who, having lost touch with themselves, depend upon you for their identity. Be calm and confident as you choose and begin to travel your path.
How I interpreted/related: No, follow your own path.
How should I see it #5
Have faith in the natural order of things. Work on any insecurities that cause internal imbalance. Time reveals the answer. Everything is still up in the air so wait it out. Patience is a gift.
How I interpreted/related: Have patience and work on your own insecurities.
Best way to handle diversity, shadows, opposition at work
Put distance between yourself and hostile forces on the attack. Hold back, withdraw and let the air clear. Like a distant mountain peak, keeping the demons at bay, you are not angry – you are reserved. Remain calm and dignified.
How I interpreted/related: Remain calm and stay out of their way.
Best way to put a stop to nasty gossiping at work
#43 > #39 1 2 4
Watch your step! If you seek to gratify your ego by an empty show of strength, you are going to have trouble. Use your sensitivity to feel the proper timing to express yourself in a situation. Go only as far as you feel you can go confidently. If you go on with a bold exterior and inner doubts, you will be knocked off balance by opposing forces. If that happens, you will look foolish to the very people who need to merge destinies with you. You are watchful. Already your intuition has you looking ahead and behind for signs of what is coming next. There may be some trouble, but nothing you can’t handle. Just to be prepared, sit down in a contingency-planning session. Go over all the things that might be weaknesses in your general life-plan and be aware of how you might handle the pressure in these areas. Mostly, have confidence that your awareness gives you the needed “edge” to deal with anything that might arise. Times have made you tough. The way of nature is for too much of one thing to produce its opposite-so, be careful not to let your strength become pride and stubbornness, and thereby pull you down with weakness. It is understandable that you would be shell-shocked by the events you have gone through, but there is more to life than blindly crashing along a self-created path. For there is magic for you now, it will be in the help others can give you. Your problem is that right now you are so sensitive to being “burned” that you won’t let yourself be influenced or led. True humility is your most promising path.
How I interpreted/related: You can’t outwardly do anything about it and you need to keep the peace. You’re frightened but awareness and true humility is the right path.
How do I release my own fears and resistance around him? #47 6 6
What really has power over you? Don’t make the mistake of believing the past can control you. You are your own leader-no person can keep you down and bound unless you want it that way. We all have done questionable things-forgive yourself for your self-created disasters. Most important, get on with your life. Come out in the light as much as possible. Be honest and loving with yourself. You have so much to be. #19
Humble heart. Tolerant attitude. Safe atmosphere. Maintain momentum. Persuasion through honesty and sincerity. Foresight. Trusting obedience to our guides. Guard your conduct. Setting a correct example to those inferior to you. A humble heart and a tolerant attitude. When you place yourself in a position to help another, you will discover your greater capabilities. Good times are approaching. Your undertakings will meet with success. People above you will offer help and support. Don’t lose sight of what bought you here. Keep being patient, present and willing to do what you can to nurture others. Connect to your centre where you can express your talents while at the same time demonstrating your integrity. People want to do their best. Defeat threat of boredom by keeping your approach fresh. Set a correct example to those inferior to you. Seeking contact. Confidence & approachable.
How I interpreted/related: Forgive yourself, get on with your life, continue being patient – it won’t always be like this. Care about yourself and others. No one can keep you bound unless you give them that power. Don’t lose sight of the bigger picture.
Harmony with Him
#11 > #34 4
Part of your personal magic is your ability to put people at ease-not just the people to whom you relate most naturally, but anyone crossing your path. There is something open about you and it makes contact with the human, unguarded part in the other entities you encounter. Be willing to share a moment, a feeling of life. Be a clear mirror in which others can see themselves. Don’t try too hard.
How I interpreted/related: For the first time the IChing suggests that it’s actually possible… I guess that’s a good sign. However none of these traits are what I feel in that environment anymore. The hexagrams also show #11 “Peace/Harmony” turning to “Great Power” (You have strength-the power to transform and evolve, but it must be released at the right time. Don’t be tempted out before the signs and conditions are favourable.). So I guess it’s saying that there may be harmony in future when the time is right and when I get my mojo back.
I wanted him to feel what it was like living a life without guilt and stress and worry, where anything was possible #13 > #1 2
Some of your wizardly power is being lost in your ego’s search for an elite group of people. You could be the kind of person who beams with good will to all and is a living example of brotherhood. Lift your eyes up from yourself and realize there are no supermen. Try to see your reflection in the sea of faces around. Line Two: The clan holds tightly, armed against outsiders. This inbreeds fear and cruelty, which can only give birth to strife and extinction.
Wilhelm/Baynes: The way to humiliation.
Cleary (2): The road to regret.
Wu: This is a way to humiliation.
Siu: Because of special privileges and factions, only a limited fellowship is realized. Regrets and problems result.
Wing: There is a tendency toward elitism and exclusivity. This creates limitations for everyone in society. Such a situation of egotism and selfish interests will bring regret.
How I interpreted/related: I wanted him to experience my delusion of positivity I was experiencing at the time. It’s saying… yeah well, it’s nice to have good will and be a living example of what you want the world to look like, but that it’s a sure path to humiliation and regret to try and impose any self-serving egoic ideals into his world. I think it’s also breaking my illusion that this ideal way of looking at the world is even possible. :(
How do I make this right?
#3 > #61 2 6
Chaos swirls around this line. Cares are many and peace of mind is hard to find. Look for a ghost-like recurrence or culmination of something done or desired ten years ago, or be aware that what is begun now may have effects ten years hence. A new person may be on the scene–this produces negative feelings in you–leave the feelings behind. Let this person go his way while you strengthen your own character. You must be determined to out-wait the storms of confusion which surround you. Beware of a subtle deception. You may feel or see someone who feels like giving up. All people are different and some fold-up under the pressure. It is natural for the mind to be discouraged after repeatedly unsuccessful trials, but blind endurance will enable the faithful to see beyond their immediate circumstances. Instead of self-pity, use your power to remain humble and concerned.
How I interpreted/related: Shadow work (heal your past) / strengthen your own character. Get out of ‘self-pity’ mode.
This situation is my teacher #2
Lonely in a crowd of thoughts. You are at home in time. You feel the coming and going of seasons, people, and events. There are times you wonder at the endless flow and the meaning of all that has gone and the mystery of all yet to be. To you many answers seem to be time itself. Not that you believe “time heals all wounds”, but you know a wound is a time phenomena. You are made to be a patient observer of the human condition. If you listen closely enough to the rhythm of life, if you still yourself completely, you can receive clues to the destinies all around you. At times your own fate comes to your door–surprising but not unwelcome. In fact, you welcome the chance to see beyond the momentary phenomena of the everyday. You want to see straight to the heart, and time and again your horizons will be expanded. The grace you exhibit in dealing with challenging events wins you praise and respect, even and especially from the creative and unstable people to whom you react. You don’t have to travel to reach solitude. You are always alone with your thoughts and gather strength from the distance from others you establish. You experience confusion and are misunderstood at points, but usually you make the best of a situation if you follow your intuition. You are a master of the fluid plan. The shape of your days become the shape of your undreamed dreams. Waking and sleeping your heart is open to life. It’s simple to receive when your heart is full of love. The more you can receive, the more you are able to give. Sympathetic souls, kindred spirits, allies and helpers, they are all around you – simply by being open – receptive to the blessings life has to give, you will prosper and grow.
Earth above and Earth below: The Earth contains and sustains. In this situation, The Superior Person should not take the initiative; he should follow the initiative of another. He should seek receptive allies in the southwest; he should break ties with immovable allies in the northeast. Responsive devotion. Receptive influence. Sublime success if you keep to your course.
The superior man will bring his friends with him to serve the ruler. The southwest is the direction proper for The Magnetic.The northeast is the direction proper for the trigram of the Mountain — hence a direction of obstruction and impasse, the opposite of magnetic receptivity. Thus the injunction to seek friends who are receptive, and shun those who are recalcitrant (hard to deal with / resistant / opposed).
Only by realizing that our existence in spacetime consists mostly of illusions and that the Self is the only real thing in our lives, can we come to accept the Work as the duty we were created to perform.
How I interpreted/related: (Yes) Life is teaching you. Listen closely and observe the rhythms. Your perspective will be broadened. Always seek to make the best of the situation. Seek like-minds.
Why don’t I trust anyone? #12
Disharmony. When all around you are losing their heads, you can keep yours – simply by standing still. You are a wise leader, withdrawing from the fray, when all is discordant and confusing, when chaos is the order of the day, you stand for dignity – your position is clear. Stand very still & take a good look around, bide your time. Don’t be fooled by tempting offers until you know it’s time to make your move, then go for it. A difficult period is approaching. Your run of good fortune has started to wane. Retreat into yourself and have faith that things will improve sooner if you stick to your plans and don’t give up. Stop wasting energy attempting to change a situation that has reached an impasse. When all around you are losing their heads, you can keep yours – simply by standing still. Stand for dignity and your position is clear. Mind your own business and don’t be fooled by tempting offers until you know it’s time to make your move, then go for it. Where a lack of communication leads to chaos, disunion, or disharmony, things could reach an impasse or a deadlock. Do not be tempted or compromised. Withdraw and find strength within. Good intentions will be misunderstood, so don’t even try. Poverty, decay, no chance of any constructive result. Indications are of a person who is arrogant, strong and loud, but inwardly weak. In all the confusions, there is no gain in action; so concentrate on maintaining affairs humbly and with dignity. By being pure even in hardships, your nature gets refined and good fortune ensues. Distance/alienation. Public bravado and arrogance / facade for a feeble spirit within. When such individuals dominate, those with more substance are undervalued or disliked and must firmly resist any temptation to sell their integrity for favour or fortune. Further problems are all we can expect to encounter if we permit ourselves to be caught up in false thinking. Remain steadfast, all conditions are temporary and better times must lie ahead.
How I interpreted/related: Stick to your path and don’t give up. Stop wasting energy trying to change a situation that won’t change. Stay true to your values/integrity and don’t be tempted to sell your integrity for anyone’s favour. Remain pure. // It’s saying that I don’t trust because I compromised my own integrity and the way to trust again is to live true to my integrity.
None of this is making sense to me, how can I trust my own feelings
#6 > #57 3 4
Your world will move and flow more smoothly if you let all things go their own way. You are fortunate now, not because you are richest or most fashionable, but because there is something inside you which is exclusively yours-a positive personality, good values, and humility put you ahead of the rest who compete for smaller prizes. Relax and wait for your fortune and luck to guide the way. In a way you could gain quite a bit through argument and struggle, but the gains would be losses instead. Transform and regenerate your outlook! Turn away from limited and ignorant influences and look inside yourself. You will learn from observations about life, if you think with a peaceful heart.
How I interpreted/related: It’s saying that I can trust my feelings, I just got caught up in trying to please others who don’t have the same kindness in their heart. Get back to who I am instead of trying to change myself for a corrupted society.
So.. right in many ways, but should’ve withdrawn from that which felt scary?
#61 > #14 3 4 5
If you become too dependent on any person you love, they may become your enemy. People need to feel a certain strength from their friends and lovers-strength from which, in turn, they can draw. While it may be flattering to another person to hand over your ego on a silver platter, it gets to be too much of a burden and ends up sapping their vital energies. When they feel overburdened they will turn on you, leaving you in a hard position. You will have to develop the strength of character you had given up previously, and it will take some time to get on your feet. This is a strange cycle, but is one of the ways love can breed opposition and contention. A goal you were counting on and cooperating with another person for will never come to pass. You may feel disappointed at all the wasted potential and sadness this time will bring, but you will come face to face with the spirit of your life again. If a relationship has ended, you must adjust your vision and develop appropriate plans. Be ever-mindful of your human potential and realize that now, more than ever, you must continue the progress you began so long ago. Allow nothing to pull you down. You are strong and have penetrating personal magnetism. The situation you find yourself in depends on your varied interpersonal skills to hold different personalities to a common course. There is a general truth, a kind of positive vibration , which you symbolize. This quality is rare and appreciated by most people. While you can make things work out between people on the strength of your will, other people may not be so dedicated to getting along with each other. This is the line of leadership based on confidence and determination.
How I interpreted/related: “You must love in a way where each feels free”. I accepted him too much because I wanted to be a safe-space for him to have someone to trust to work through his own unresolved traumas, becoming especially ‘over-understanding’ when things got really scary. My over-caring was interpreted as over-bearing. I became too dependant on ‘saving him’ – and never considered that it would be interpreted in any other way than intended, but in hindsight… can see where strong is wrong.
What is the correct attitude #10 > #12 1 2
You are in a world of your own. This is exactly where you have longed to be-away from the pressures and trials of the outside world. You are especially lucky since you can succeed easily in your chosen area. The only challenge you face is with yourself. Has your distance from others given you freedom to be yourself, or has it given you freedom to be self-indulgent? Simplicity (no scheming or pretension) is your best protection and direction. You are nearly invisible. The detachment you sought from worldly, time-wasting values it complete. You will pass through your troubles like a wind in the tall grass. The future and the past are living in your every moment. You were meant to be yourself and to temporarily conceal your wisdom from the people who wouldn’t understand anyway. Your intuition is clear and strong and secrets are revealed to you.
How I interpreted/related: Detach from expectations and you will be free to be yourself. Take the path of least resistance. Stay on course.
I have no influence or confidence now cos I don’t know who to trust, even my own thoughts are vague, empty
#26 > #52 1 2
Obstacles block your path. Wait for the power inside you to find the right outlet. Drop back, look at your world intensely, and store up energy for a later and better time to act. You are being forced to hold back and it is not your fault. There are times you can’t do anything; they come for a reason. This may be a way nature gets you to look at your life and store up your personal reservoir of energy for a future time when a way is made clear to you.
How I interpreted/related: Forced to hold back – there are times you can’t do anything; wait.
How to connect with my heart
Elimination of unworthiness. Tackling negative forces and influences. How do deal with unavoidable confrontation. Compromising our virtue. Channelling our energies into virtue. Correcting one’s faults. Surviving difficult challenges. Deeply trusting yourself and the power of intuitive guidance. Integrity and focus. Resist egotistical influences in order to make a breakthrough. By resisting emotional overreactions, it is possible to defuse the situation before it causes problems. This is the breakthrough you’ve been waiting for and working toward. When people have been holding you back and circumstances conspiring against you, you can turn it around, through bold & decisive action. Once you’ve make it to the other side, share the rewards, keep the momentum going. Remember making a breakthrough will expose you to new dangers though, so keep your eyes open.
How I interpreted/related: Correcting the past, getting through this, living by my own virtue.
What insight am I not seeing in the decayed situation with co-worker?
#38 > #58 5 6
Remember the beginning of the friendship to reconcile. People are not seeing events from the same perspective. Nature explores variety and change through contrast. Hold integrity and individuality above all else. Your similarities are hidden, but once the defensive wrappings come off, there is great shared affinity. There are no enemies, only love. Resolve misunderstandings. Appreciate / accept differences. You aren’t an easy person to know. Hard times and changing fortunes of life have made you distant and hard to get close to at times. Your warm heart is disguised in an outer cloak of steel and ice and you turn people away with the very cool, self-sufficiency which has guided you through heavy changes. In this case you must be more human and realize there is someone who has really shown himself to you, but you’ve been too busy being detached from life to fully notice and appreciate. You will realize this person has the same type of persevering spirit and loyalty you value so highly. Don’t let past pain cloud the days ahead of you. Let yourself be touched and you will be pleasantly surprised. You will have to see through many veils now. There is a veil over your own mind which causes you to overreact defensively to many situations. In this case, you miscalculated the character of someone you will later find is a close companion to you. Oddly enough, that you will make this mistake is a positive sign that you are moving in your Tao. Now is a very good time to adhere to your source of inspiration. Prayers and psychic insight will help decipher the confusing events of the days ahead. You achieve union with yourself now, and that influences all your other relationships.
How I interpreted/related: Stop being an Ice Queen and remember the start of the friendship. Perspectives differ. It wasn’t a mistake to explore contrast, it was a mistake to change who you are. Find peace within, know yourself again. There are no enemies.
Get away from toxic people… or help them?
#33 > #24 1 3 4 5 6
Put distance between yourself and hostile forces
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